The fear of never finding the right one

What if you never find the one? It’s a question we are all afraid to ask ourselves. Scares the living hell out of us.

So why is companionship so important. The answer is rooted deep in our brains from the time we were a tiny sea swimming Pisces millions of years ago. The need for moral support and someone to rely on at the end of the day, someone watching our back is the primary driving force for survival once mammals have garnered resources like warmth, food and shelter. It's what keeps us thriving as a species. We all need someone.

We have evolved a lot since our good old swimming days and then our running in the day and sleeping in a cave at night times. We now classify as what we call "a society". We have the choice to choose our partners. We don't need to make do with an unfavorable partner just to carry on the genes. Since our biggest competition is not the dark silhouette of a big cat at night or the overhead thunder clouds, it is us. Our fellow homo sapiens pose the greatest threat to us today. Who'll get that next promotion, who will get that big investment, who'll buy that luxurious house or car, who gets into that big shot college, watches that big game on good seats, gets married to that beautiful partner. So it is really important today than in no other point of time ever before, to choose the right one. The one who'll push us forward, walk along on that dreaded path and not the one who pushes us down.

The question, therefore, that I raise today is how are we supposed to find the right one in the 7 billion of us. Everyone is different in their own unique way. Everyone has their own story.

Even if you meet the one, can he/she really leave that impression? We all have a lot going on at every moment. What if you have already met the one true partner, but It was a mere glance? Fate made you cross paths, but never made you interact. You must be thinking, maybe it was this guy/girl I saw on the subway today that I'll probably never see again. What if he/she was the one?

Assuming you go on a spree to meet every potential partner on the planet? You cannot possibly judge a person in a second, right? Well guess what, even if hypothetically you had just a second with every potential partner on the planet, you'd miss out on more simply because 3.5 billion is a huge number.

What do we do?

Wait and let fate decide?

Go on a desperate search spree?

Leave it as it is?

My answer? Be there, be you, let life come your way. No one for you is perfect, or I think so. Have you ever tried searching for new parents? Have you ever unloved someone? No one remains the same. Your reaction to the same situation possibly will have changed or will change depending on your state of mind. Nothing is perfect, we can only make it suit ourselves and maybe walk a little longer in the short span of time that we have on this ball floating in nothingness around another hotter ball floating in the same unknown nothingness.

So hang tight, don't lose hope, make the best of the situation and just enjoy your time as long as you can. You'll find the one, or maybe they'll find you. Just look for the good in others, I believe there is plenty. All you need to do is to open yourself up.